“I think when something horrible happens to you, you end up encoding it as ‘I am horrible’ instead of ‘I have endured something horrible.’ And that’s not fair to you.”
R said that to me in November. I emailed it to myself then and just unearthed it now while looking for something else I sent myself. (I tend to email myself a lot.)
I wanted to share it, you know, in case someone else needed to hear it too.